University of Kansas
Emeritus Professor of Religious Studies

A national resource for information on gender issues and gay/straight relationships for organizations, businesses, educational institutions, and media outlets such as NBC and USA Today, Bob Minor, Ph.D. has been speaking, consulting, and leading workshops for more than twenty years.

Bob is author of eight books, and Emeritus Professor of Religious Studies at the University of Kansas. He also writes a national column, "Minor Details" that appears on MSNBC's Newsvine and in print and online around the country. Learn more about him at www.fairnessproject.org.

Articles by Bob Minor

Don’t Make a Breakup Worse for Yourself by Doing This

You haven’t really lived if you haven’t experienced a breakup with a romantic or potentially lifetime partner. That’s not to recommend that we should seek out opportunities to do so because we’re otherwise missing out on something exciting. It’s to say that it’s a standard part of any human search for love and intimacy. There’s […] Continue Don’t Make a Breakup Worse for Yourself by Doing This

Be Aware of What’s Going On in Apologies and Forgiveness

Psychologist and popular writer, Harriet Lerner’s new book, Why Won’t You Apologize? analyzes the interwoven dynamics of what it is to apologize to and forgive another. Hers is one of the most realistic deconstructions of the two sides of a single coin that’s crucial to healthy relationships. Since apologies are something we can all do […] Continue Be Aware of What’s Going On in Apologies and Forgiveness

Right Now, Practice Giving Yourself Permission to Not Win an Argument

In all relationships, the need to win an argument, the need to be right, affects how we get along. And the other person in the debate probably has that same psychological need to be right as we do. So, this mutual motivation to be right is likely to multiply in every conflict, major or minor. […] Continue Right Now, Practice Giving Yourself Permission to Not Win an Argument

We Don’t Need a New Year to Take Back Our Lives

Another year has come to an end. But it’s just another artificial marker in the movement of time, meaningless in the natural scheme of things. We humans give it any meaning and power it has. For the rest of nature, December 31st is merely one day followed by another that might be no different than […] Continue We Don’t Need a New Year to Take Back Our Lives

What If We Don’t Agree Politically?

There are couples and friends who get along well when they disagree about politics. This political season, however, has even strained some of those relationships. Again and again we hear how arguments especially over the presidential candidates in both the primaries and the general campaigns have actually destroyed friendships and driven couples into silence when […] Continue What If We Don’t Agree Politically?

If Opposites Attract, Can Differences Make It Last?

What is the best balance of similarities and differences between two people that makes for happy relationships? The old saying that opposites attract might be true when it comes to the initial stages of a relationship. But as time wears on, it could very well be those opposites that start to bug the other partner. […] Continue If Opposites Attract, Can Differences Make It Last?

The Key to the Success of Your Relationship?

Writers both online and in print have discovered that the quickest way to get a reader’s attention in a busy world is to put whatever one has to say into a list, preferably one that’s not too long. Lists simplify the reading and thinking process so that we only need to check off quickly what […] Continue The Key to the Success of Your Relationship?

How Is Faith a Key to Successful Relationships?

One of the takeaways of the field of religious studies is that there are at least two ways that people think about this thing they call “faith.” Interestingly, one of those definitions is more important than another when we speak of the word faith as a crucial factor in healthy human relationships. We’re not talking […] Continue How Is Faith a Key to Successful Relationships?