Therapist, Counselor and Educator

As a professional counselor/therapist, public speaker and writer on men’s issues since the early ’80’s, Dale has lived through many of the situations and issues with which he assists his private practice and clinical clients, along with his various national and international workshop participants.

He has come to believe the vast majority of mental health issues (and even more so the concept of ‘mental illness’) are very likely the result of places that taught individual persons how to merely “survive” using poor quality coping skills. This ‘person, in a place, with a process’ model takes the focus off blaming the individual, teaching there are more effective, and satisfying, methods of dealing with the complexities of daily living in our modern society.

This is where a person’s passion comes into play and makes life really worth living! He strongly believes life should be an adventure to be savored, rather than simply a series of problems to be solved.

Completing his Masters of Social Work internship at Wayne State University’s Counseling Center (in Detroit, MI), he was invited to stay on as a counselor for 5 ½ years (including 1 ½ years of working with students with disabilities).

He established his current private practice in 1985 and is an Internationally Certified Advanced Alcohol & Drug Counselor (CAADC). Dale has published his online book on men’s issues, “Stopping The Madness” (see www.Amazon.com click ‘look inside’ to view the table of contents and three sample chapters) and currently writes for two websites.

During his nearly three decades as a therapist in his private practice in Southfield, MI, Dale has come to believe teaching the attributes of relatively healthy functioning families, along with the mechanics and roles within dysfunctional families, allows and encourages individuals to internalize their locus of control and discover normalcy (along with the practiced skill of setting boundaries and learning alternatives to power struggles through assertiveness and negotiated compromise).

He enjoys balancing his direct client therapy with lecturing, workshops and writing, as well as volunteering on public program boards and ‘grass roots’ organizations.

Dale believes individuals deserve the opportunity to live lifestyles to their fullest, unencumbered and in control of past issues. He suggests Twelve-Step Programs are excellent for establishing sobriety, BUT there can be more to living than simply surviving and “taking it one day at a time”.

There may be several paths individuals can take during their lifetime’s journey. This is advocating diversity in its broadest definition. In addition to be being a male in America (with its unique perspectives and problems), also being a gay male in a 35 year relationship, has taught him a great deal about life’s hidden opportunities.

As a voluntary professional focusing on men’s issues, Dale was a member of the Board of Directors of the former Michigan Alcohol & Addiction Association and President of the Southeastern Michigan Information and Referral Alliance.

He has also addressed healthy Gay/LGBT lifestyles and relationships, the emerging Leather Community, and addressing the medical/psychological issues of AIDS for three decades (serving on four AIDS speakers bureaus); was the creator of two graduate courses on working with Gay/LGBT clients for seven years at Wayne State University’s School of Social Work in Detroit, MI (one of the first in the nation); was first President of Wellness House of Michigan (alternative housing for persons with AIDS); was a founding member of Wellness Networks, Inc. (now part of the non-profit state-wide organization AIDS Partnership of Michigan); was a founding member and primary presenter of the Leather Institute For Education (LIFE-Detroit); is a member of the Michigan Band of Brothers leather titleholders group; and was a “therapist”, and consultant, to a five-city syndicated television news segment on relationships.

During his personal time, Dale enjoys antiques and fine art with his friend, Ron, since beginning their relationship in 1979 (Dale was an antique dealer for eight years and Ron now owning his own antique paintings gallery, The Golden Fig in Birmingham MI), gardening, and participating in the newly emerging International Leather Community – a rather full and passionate life thus far.

Dale is listed in the One Thousand Great Americans - 2003 edition, published by the International Biographical Center in Cambridge, England, as well as their Men of Achievement book in 1985. Dale is also listed in Who’s Who In The World, 1987-88; Who’s Who in America, 2000; Who’s Who in Medicine & Health Care, 1999-2000; Who’s Who in the Midwest, 1986-87; Who’s Who Among Human Service Professionals, 1986-87; Outstanding Young Men of America Awards, 1983 & 1984, and a Community Leader of America Proclamation, 1986-87.

Articles by Dale Ross

Thriving In A Chaotic America. More Than Merely Surviving.

On a recent local morning TV show, while eating my breakfast, I heard one of the commentators say a new study declared that the economic boom of the ’60’s was a unique period in America’s history and cannot be repeated – period. In later thinking about this short, casual declaration I began to find myself […] Continue Thriving In A Chaotic America. More Than Merely Surviving.

Consensus vs Coercion – Bullying and Other Power Games

Consensus is a group solidarity in sentiment and belief, a general belief, or a collective opinion (according to the dictionary given by my coworkers in the public library I worked in as a teenager, way back in the early 1960’s – grin. I keep it next to my computer to remind me of those formative […] Continue Consensus vs Coercion – Bullying and Other Power Games

Let’s Do Lunch – The Fine Art Of Conversation

With the holiday season upon us, I thought, perhaps it might be a useful time to assess and evaluate our social lives. I continue to hear MANY people express their frustration and unhappiness at the state of their friendships (or lack thereof). All too often this comes in the form of questioning “What’s wrong with […] Continue Let’s Do Lunch – The Fine Art Of Conversation

Lost Souls, Abandoned Childhoods and Broken Toys

A counseling client recently began working with me and described how he’s felt like a broken toy his entire life. He had effectively learned how to deal with a rather severe case of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), including graduating from college, yet feelings of being broken have persisted for decades! He’s made significant progress, […] Continue Lost Souls, Abandoned Childhoods and Broken Toys

American Aggression – Nature Or Now Rude Behavior???

I often hear people referring to America’s greatness as stemming from its aggressive stance in conquering anything (and everything). We settled the Old West through our ‘rugged determinism’, and ‘tamed the Wild Beasts’ (i.e. Native Americans), through the use of powerful guns and legislation to control those who were left. Conquering Mt. Everest was seen […] Continue American Aggression – Nature Or Now Rude Behavior???

Dating And Mating

Every few months I notice a mainstream column or TV talk show discussing dating, as if this is some new activity people have recently discovered and have no clue (or confidence) on how to approach. Perhaps, we, as a society, might offer some parental guidance for possible consideration (while leaving lots of room for creativity […] Continue Dating And Mating

Our Modern Management-By-Crisis

We’ve all heard the classic phrase, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” Well, in today’s fast-paced, winner-take-all, ‘no limits’ and ‘no fears’ lifestyles, this appears to have somehow been forgotten, and the stakes (and ‘pound of cure’ costs) are staggering! For what it is worth, America is not alone, but I […] Continue Our Modern Management-By-Crisis

New Health Crisis At-Risk Population: Middle-Aged White Men

“Drink and drug addiction, poor mental and physical health and even the financial crisis drove up death rates among white middle aged Americans between 1999-2013.” I’ve been sharing this viewpoint on men’s issues for the past three decades, and now that it’s documented to be literally killing men, perhaps they will finally begin to take […] Continue New Health Crisis At-Risk Population: Middle-Aged White Men

Back To The Basics: Common Sense 2.0 Upgrade

For the many of us overwhelmed by today’s world in various stages and levels of chaos, finding our ‘islands of tranquility’ is difficult as well as important. I’ve had an increasing number of clients, colleagues, friends and even total strangers spontaneously sharing their frustrations on events we used to take for granted. I have come […] Continue Back To The Basics: Common Sense 2.0 Upgrade