We all know that action is sometimes more important than words. Demonstrating love toward your grandchild comes in many forms. Below is a list of list of examples of acceptance and love that you can use as a grandparent.

Accept your grandchild as is. Don’t try to make your grandchild into another person that he or she does not want to be. It is common for grandchildren to strive to be someone different than their grandparents. It’s also common for grandchildren become more like their grandparents, as they grow older. Love your grandchild for who he or she is now!

Attend your grandchild’s activities. You don’t need to say anything. Just be there for them.

Talk about the events, friends and things your grandchild likes to do. Try to remember your grandchild’s friend’s names. Ask questions like, “What’s your friend Jenny been up to?” Or, “What’s it like to play in a large band at school?” This demonstrates your interest and acceptance in the positive activities that your grandchild is involved with.

Compliment your grandchild. Do not compliment in an artificial way, but in a way that really shows your love, thankfulness or interest. For example: “Tom, I really appreciate the way you let your brother borrow your stuff. You’re a good example for your younger brother.” Or, “Sabrina, Wow! You really played a great game. You really hustled!” Try to open with a compliment or a positive statement prior to asking for your grandchild to redo a chore. For example: “Thanks for helping with the dishes. I know you’re in a hurry. I will help you get these done.”

Ask your grandchild for his or her opinion. Say, “Sara, your good at decorating, what color do you think would look good in this room?” Or, “Tim, can I put you and two of your friends in charge of making a decision on where to pile all that wood? I’m buying lunch when you’re done.”

Say, “I love you.” Say it and mean it! Say it for sure at the end of the day that did not go so well.

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